I’ve shared before about how important it is for unmarried women to NOT get or stay involved with men who have serious issues.
Today… well… I want to say that if you are not married, remember that marriage is truly a wonderful gift to want, but that it’s not easy, ever, so that means making a good choice is even more important.
I married the finest man I personally know. Truly.
I remember the day my mom told me, “He would take wonderful care of you and love you very much, Mindy. We are so impressed with him.”
Years later, I realized my mom liked Paul so stinkin’ much that if she and Papalou had been forced to choose between me and him, I would not have been standing on highest podium while the anthem played. My family refers to him as Saint Paul. Seriously.
And yet… being married is hard. This journey is no cake walk.
Paul and I have had our tense times, our furious fights, our major misunderstandings, and our bouts of blowing up. We can look at each other like, “What in the world are you thinking?” even though we’ve been married eighteen years. We can frustrate one another like no one else even though we love each other like no one else. We can be baffled by one another’s decisions and opinions regularly.
All that being said, we have a terrific marriage. One of the best, actually, so that means the hard times come with the territory.
While we’ve seasoned lots of hard times in life together already, I think we have stumbled upon a new one (which I will share in another post) and it’s pretty stinkin’ hard.
As I was texting with a cyber friend (Hi, Faith!), I remembered something pretty stinkin significant though:
I can’t imagine having to walk through this with someone I didn’t like.
It hit me like a ton of bricks, really. While this new phase of marriage is hard for me, at least I’m dealing with a truly likeable and wonderful man. At least I married well. My heart was suddenly very heavy for those women who have entered a covenant with men who seemed to gain them entry into the world they wanted, marriage, but really gave them a passport to misery.
Marriage is wonderful.
Marriage is tough.
Please do NOT allow the lie that it will solve your problems take seed in your heart because too often women make very big mistakes while working under that premise.
Today, I’m stinkin’ grateful to be married to Paul, one of the biggest tools God uses to sanctify me, even when I don’t like it.
Today, I’m grateful to be married to a man that is a delight to anyone who knows him.
Today, I’m thankful God let me see this that man was a wonderful choice for a husband.
Even though he can make me crazy in every way. Even though he is goofy for nearly every photo we take together. Even though…
Just even though.
Did you marry well? Have you seen it can be difficult at times?