12 Reasons We Don’t Have Our Children in Public School {Part 2}

by GfG on October 16, 2013 · 6 comments

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Yesterday I shared the first six of twelve reasons we do not have our children in public school.  As I stated yesterday, these are OUR reasons.  They may have nothing to do with your view of life.  I share the list for several reasons: I am often asked and I shy away from answering, I often fail to state my reasons when people bring the topic up because I don’t want to be argumentative, and because it may help others who are concerned.

{ETA: We have friends, dear friends, who believe much differently on this issue.  We have served in and loved greatly in a church for eighteen years where we were the minority in this opinion.  Just as other issues, Christians can agree to disagree in love.}

The first six reasons (reading them may help you with these next ones).

Alrighty… the last six in the list for 12 Reasons We Don’t Have Our Children in Public School:

7) The public school system is anti-Biblical.

Please notice that I did NOT say that public school teachers are anti-Biblical.  We mean the system.  The system blatantly teaches and supports an anti-Biblical curriculum across the board, preK to graduation.  That’s thirteen years of anti-Biblical teaching for a typical child.   The amount of secular, humanistic, Marxist, and other anti-Biblical worldview teachings can not be measured, for it is constant and always unannounced/undeclared.

The internal acceptance of these anti-Biblical views are usually undetected to the child all the way until adulthood.  And usually continue even then.  I didn’t realize how many humanistic views I had until I started studying many different topics as a parent, through Biblical teachers.

It is one of the reasons, I believe, that the book Total Truth was written, why Francis Schaeffer preached so adamantly to Christians on the topic of worldview, and why so many Christians have a disconnect between what they say they believe Biblically and what they actually live out in their lives.

Many people are deceived in thinking the system isn’t anti-Biblical because they live in a conservative area.

We do not want to place our blessings, our gifts, our beloved children in a system that is intentional about teaching against our worldview.

8) The public school system is anti-Christian.

Again, please note that I did NOT say that public school teachers are anti-Christian.  That is not the case, of course.  In the Bible Belt, it is usually quite the opposite, actually.  Yet, that does not negate the fact that the system itself is anti-Christian.  The methods, the curriculum, and the behavior management is anti-Christian as an entity.

We do not want our children growing up in (since more than 50% of their awake time would be spent in that system, that’s growing up “in”) a system that is anti-Christian.  We want them tomato staked, as it were, in a setting that is fully supportive of Christianity.

Just as if we lived in Texas, we wouldn’t want our children to be in a school that doesn’t allow talking about Texas and actually teaches against the awesomeness of Texas (tongue in cheek here, folks), we don’t want our kids in a school that doesn’t allow talking about Christ and actually teaches against Christ’s teachings in areas.

More and more often, not just Christianity, but Christians are discriminated against in the public school system.

9) We do not want to send out missionaries that are not fully trained.

Sending a missionary into a foreign field with no training in doctrine, methodology, and cultural training would be a disaster.  Seriously.  Sending them out when they are not Christians, well, that’s just wrong (supporting our #3 reason). Sending them out if they are “milk” Christians with little training, again, wrong.

Having “baby” Christians in the public school is a lot like sending a person who came to Christ months ago to Papau New Guinea as a missionary full time.  Little experience.  No training.  No support system for while they are there, only on furlough (for the Christian child in the public school, he would have no support as things happen at school, only when they get home).

Missionaries need to be strong in their faith, their doctrine, their cultural understanding, and their grasp of God’s Plan. They won’t be perfect Christians (no such thing exists), but they do need to solid ones.

We do not think children can be missionaries because they do not have the “equipment” yet.  They will, God willing, someday, but not as children.  As children, they should be watching the parents be missional in their living.  As children, they should be in “training camp” for mission work.  As children, they should be getting their “papers” in Christian living, doctrine, and cultural understanding so that they can be sent out as (young) adults.

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10) We believe that public school provides more temptation than is healthy for children and teens.

We think that six to nine (or more!) hours a day in a system that provides a lot of temptation for sin and/or for ungodly mindsets is more temptation and requires more discernment than children can handle well.  They will internalize some (if not all) of it.

I have a sugar (and alcohol) problem.  It would be silly of me (if not flat out stupid) to spend six to nine hours a day in a bakery or a margarita making business.  We believe this is the same kind of issue for children in public school.

Even after our children (hopefully) become Christians and can be light/salt to others, we believe public school is a breeding ground for a crazy amount of sinful attitudes, mindsets, and behavior that either goes unchecked by the adults in the system or simply can not be addressed by them.

We think this is especially negative as children struggle to find their own identity, giftings, and talents during the teen years.

Take for one example the mindset of thinness = beautiful.  Girls in the public school system are bombarded with this in magazines, billboards, commercials, and more just like the rest of us, but they are also are surrounded almost solely by each other all day (and the boys who are staring at them), spurring one another on towards an unbiblical and incredibly unhealthy goal of being skinny.

The mindset of the mob rules the group of teens, not the truth.

Same concern for coolness, learning abilities, bullying, physical differences, other areas defined as beautiful, sexual activity, sexual identification, and so much more.

When immersed in an immature and ungodly group, the temptation to behave ungodly or believe ungodly lies is near constant and unchecked.  We don’t want that for our children all day every day.

 11) We can not reteach what we have not be told.

When a child is away from home all day in public school, there is no way for a parent to know everything taught to the child that day. I don’t just mean academic teaching, though that is certainly included.

I mean the behavior teaching from adults and other children.  I mean the psychology that was taught, via adults and children.  I mean the emotional input.  I mean everything that was poured into the child that day.

Paul and I simply can NOT reteach and/or address all of that.  A child can not recall all of that.  It was all taken in by him or her, with no help of filtering.

While we can’t know every single belief impressed upon our children even when they are home with us, we have more of the ability to help and teach if we know the input (interactions, media, etc) for the day for many years.

12) We let each child carry their “appropriate suitcase”. 

We believe that public school asks children to carry suitcases that are inappropriate for them at many ages.  Let me explain.

The story goes that a father and a son were traveling across the country on a train.  The little boy of five years, wanted to pick up the big trunk and carry it.  He tried and tried.  He was able to move it some and even carry it a bit along the station floor.

The father smiled and told the son, “Oh, son. I am so glad you want to do difficult things.  I am glad you want to be strong enough to carry that trunk.  Some day, that trunk will be yours to carry.  For now, though, I have this bag for you to carry.  It is a manageable size for your age and abilities.  As you grow, I will give you bigger and bigger items to carry.  Sometimes it will stretch you, but I will not put more on you than you are ready to bear.  It is my job to carry the trunk for you until you can carry it yourself.”

Of course, our children will be equipped and educated about worldviews, cultures, and lifestyles that clash with ours.  Of course, our children will learn how to interact with people who are anti-Christian and anti-Biblical.  Of course, they will be challenged and sent out as missionaries.

They will be given tasks and information that suit their mental development, their doctrinal knowledge, and their psychological growth.  They will carry bigger and bigger suitcases, until they are ready for the trunk.

So… there you have it: 12 reasons we do not have our children in the public school system.

These reasons have become more and more solid in our minds the longer we homeschool.

As we watch our children become young adults.  As we watch the benefits of not being in the public school system grow.  As we watch our country make plans for a common core of curriculum.

Are any of these reasons new to you?

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The Reader October 16, 2013 at 6:02 am

I love love love the suitcase analogy. Love it.

Very well stated reasons, all 12, which comes as no surprise to me but felt worth mentioning anyway :)

Mostly love the suitcase one, as it sums up so very much all in one image: each child ought to be taught what he is ready for, when he is ready for it. Not a moment too soon, and not an item/factoid/topic too much.

Beautiful. Thanks for sharing that one, especially.

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GfG October 16, 2013 at 9:40 am

Thanks, H! I appreciate the encouragement.

Yes, the suitcase is a fabulous way to get the whole package across to someone.

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Brooke October 16, 2013 at 4:30 pm

Agree, agree! Thanks!

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Zak Smith October 16, 2013 at 5:19 pm

Great reasons Mindy; as a family who has decided to school their children at home I really agree with these reasons. It wasn’t until WELL after high school( and even to this day) that I began to realize just how much I had been taught without even knowing it!! Sure, I learned math, art, history, science, and music, and all of that is good, however I learned how to deal with bullies on my own( good skill to have as an adult, harder to learn as a child and more scarring), evolutionary psychology, liberal political views espoused as history, and so on. I won’t say that home schooling is for everyone, but I WOULD stress that objectively looking at the pros and cons of each system made it very easy for my wife and I to decide to homeschool.

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candy October 20, 2013 at 5:51 am

enjoyed your 12 reasons. My husband and I homeschool our 2 children (17 and 12) who have never attended school. I would add another reason to yours that was probably implied in several of the points-I had my children so that I could be around them and spend time with them. When I think how quickly 17 years has gone by, I am sad for parents who don’t see their children for 8-10 hours each day. Although, as with any family, my children and I have our ‘ups and downs’ being together a lot, we learn together about love and forgiveness and perseverance, etc.
Enjoyed your site and will definitely read more. I am a friend of Lauren’s from Louisiana. Blessings!!

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Theresa October 21, 2013 at 6:53 am

I whole heartily agree. As a homeschooling mother of seven (three of whom are now young adults), I would like to offer a wordl of advice/warning. Don’t let your guard down when involved in “Christian” activities-especially the church. I had a false sense of security in the fact that I homeschooled K-12 my oldest and failed to realize that those same influences we seek to protect our children from are often in the church as well. Just as was stated, many adults don’t realize how much “worldly wisdom ” they follow and also, the church is full of people young and old who are at various stages in their spiritual journeys from lost to Spiritual Fathers and Mothers. I am in no way recommending withdrawing from church, but be wise and discerning in the relationships and time your children spend in unsupervised Christian functions. We lost our son to the influence of “Christian leaders” that turned out to be wolves. Don’t be lulled into a false security as a homeschool family and consider the concept of a family integrated church (if you haven’t already). May God Bless and keep you!

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