A striking truth hit me a few months ago and I have been trying to live out the application. It’s not easy. I’ve basically been telling the chattiest person in my life to shut up. The person I listen to the most has quite an influence on my life and I need to not listen to her as much.
Yes, the person who talks to me the most is a woman. And she nearly never stops speaking to me.
She is me.
And she can’t be trusted.
The most influential person in your life is yourself. You mentally talk to yourself all.the.time.
And so do I.
There are a few problems with listening to ourselves all the time:
- We are speaking from one viewpoint.
- We can’t have other voices join us on the inside to give perspective, constantly.
- We can’t be trusted.
- We can’t be trusted. Did I say that already? Well, it’s worth repeating.
Because we have “inner speak”, we have to train it. They only way to train up your mouthy minds is to speak truth . Did you know that your emotions, mindset, experiences, viewpoint, and memory are not truth?
God’s Word alone is truth.
Yes, He gave us a mind to experience life and to use for many, many things, but it is not supposed to be the sole filter. Why not?
Because we often interpret a situation based on our “baggage”.
Because we usually remember only random aspects of an experience.
Because we don’t always see the big picture of a moment.
So, yes, our brains are amazing creations that astound scientists all over the world, but our minds… well, they can’t be trusted. The simply can’t and our minds are the biggest influence on our hearts.
And our hearts… wow. Our hearts affect soooo much. No matter how real our hearts decisions and opinions seem… they can not be trusted either. Add in the sin nature we are all born with, and you have a seriously untrustworthy influence.
God knows that and has told us that:
“The heart is more deceitful than all else And is desperately sick; Who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9
How are we to sort out the problem of the mind/heart vs truth?
We need to seek out God’s Word for truth. We have to read it, study it, meditate on it, and memorize it. That way, when we talk to ourselves, we can try to sway our minds/hearts.
Taking our thought life captive isn’t a nice little Biblical saying. It’s a command. And it makes a ton of sense.
We have to guard our heart from more wickedness (in addition to the sin taintedness we all have) because “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Mark 7:21.
God changes our hearts when we become Christians. It’s an amazing truth. He seals them.
Still.. our minds are full of life experiences, wrong teaching, and have daily input to continue to influence our hearts. Which can’t be trusted. Which is why we must rely on God.
I’ve come to realize more about what that means. It’s not just, “When someone preaches something, think about it based on Scripture.” Although that’s true.
It’s not just, “When a person is mean, I need to control my reaction based on Scripture.” Although that’s true.
What it means is that when we feel something, we must compare our feelings to what God says
“She hurt my feelings!” Well… did she sin and hurt you? Or are you choosing to be hurt by someone’s action that were perfectly fine?
“I should be able to do that!” Well… is “that” something that God has given you the freedom to do, the resources to do, and the ability to do it without shirking your responsibilities? Or are you believing a cultural lie?
“That’s not the right way to do that!” Well… is it not right, biblically? Or is it just not how you prefer it done?
“All Scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness” I Timothy 3:16
We have to compare our feelings and beliefs against God’s Word. That’s not easy. Again, that constant voice within us speaks and needs someone willing to put it in check.
Asking the Holy Spirit to “search” our hearts and reveal sin and untruth. He desires to do so.
Asking God honoring men and women who know God’s Word to also “search” our hearts and reveal sin and untruth is something we are called to do. It’s not easy to be that vulnerable or to find gentle “brothers” who will wound in love.
But… that chatty voice needs to be checked.
How are you combating that voice?