Is It Ever Ok to Quit Homeschooling?

by GfG on March 26, 2015 · 3 comments

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I am a huge fan of homeschooling.  Humongous, really.  I love homeschooling, despite the hardness of it, the humor poked at it, and the heavy work load.

And I have plenty of reasons why I homeschool.  And why I don’t do public school. And even more benefits for homeschooling.

Still, do I think everyone should homeschool?  No.  I don’t.

I had a reader ask an heartfelt and somewhat controversial question on the Facebook page.  She wanted me to address it here:  Do you think it’s ever ok to quit homeschooling?  Yes.  And no.  So… here are my thoughts on this question (not to be confused with the question “should you homeschool or not”, which is a different question), as I finish my sixteenth formal year of homeschooling.

Quitting Homeschooling

Is it ever ok to quit homeschooling?

YES: short answer
If your reasons for homeschooling no longer exist, if your child has changed to the extent that homeschooling is no longer safe for one or both of you, if your child has changed to the point that he or she will not mind you and is of the size and strength to assert himself in a way that takes training in obedience off the table, if your spouse has died or left you and you do not have the financial resources to both provide and homeschool your children, if your health has deteriorated to the point where you can not physically do the tasks necessary, if your husband insists that you do, if your child has developed some special needs that you are not able to meet nor learn how to meet, or if your mental state has you in acute and intense counseling for drastic emotional problems and you can not gather or hire help, then quitting homeschooling, for short or long term, makes sense

NO: short answer

If your reasons for homeschooling are still intact and none of the other reasons listed above fit the bill, then I say it’s not appropriate to quit.

YES: long answer

If your reasons for homeschooling no longer exist, then it makes sense that you would quit.  Realizing this could be rather eye opening and helpful.  This could mean that priorities have shifted, goals have been met, philosophy has changed, or other similar ways reasons disappear.

The other causes I gave in the simple answer for ceasing to homeschool are pretty severe.  Have I ever seen the above reasons affect a family?  Yes, yes, I have.  And the judgement against that family for not continuing to homeschool was shocking to me.

No matter the reasons for us homeschooling, no matter how committed we are to the idea, we are not the only ones involved, as parents.

There are students.  And they affect the situation and climate in the home.  Greatly.

There are expenses.  And they affect the situation and checking account in the home.  Greatly.

To stand on a line so stubbornly that we refuse to see reasons that could change that line for others, is to either make the line an idol or to make oneself unmerciful.  Neither are God honoring.

Homeschooling is wonderful.  It is a gift we have in this country and I pray that it is always available, legally.  It is not always an option for a family, though.  Of course, I wish that was the case.

But wishing something were true, doesn’t make it so.  Nor does believing it is it the ideal.

If you are one of the mamas who has had drastic changes to her life, to her children, and/ or to her finances, making it impossible or unwise to homeschool, accept my cyber hug.  And encouragement that you must do what you must to do make yourself, your children, and your home safe and viable.

May God give you wisdom, strength, perseverance, finances, and support as you navigate the new route on which God has taken you.

NO: long answer 

If your reasons are intact and nothing drastic has changed, then I lovingly say that you need to not quit.  Yes, it may be difficult in a major way for many reasons.  Yes, you may need to make some big changes.  What could those be?

  • letting go of idealistic goals
  • remembering that your family isn’t supposed to do things just like others
  • changing curriculum overall or in specific subjects
  • asking a godly mentor to help you in child training if that is the problem
  • making a routine plan that is realistic and hold yourself accountable to it
  • releasing outside commitments so you can focus on this “job” (and it is a job, don’t let anyone tell you differently)
  • reevaluating financial expenses, including downsizing in major ways (vehicles and/or house)
  • taking your expectations for your child to the Lord for evaluation
  • considering some outside help of some kind (including online classes, a tutor, community class, etc)
  • consultation for learning disabilities for your child and advice on how to handle them
  • thinking outside the box (a son taking outdoor living life skills classes, for example)
  • being honest with a trusted friend who can help you figure out how to sort out the situation

Quitting anything should be not be taken lightly, but quitting a lifestyle that is usually connected to educational, spiritual, and familial philosophies for sure should be taken seriously.

We always need to consider our heart attitude for quitting something.  Always. Homeschooling is no different.

Does that mean we never quit?  No, it doesn’t.  It just means it must be done for only the right reasons.

What reasons would you add to the yes list? 

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Martha Smith March 26, 2015 at 1:40 pm

My husband and I KNEW we would home school before we were married. Although we never started home schooling, we had to quit the idea of it when it was time for our oldest to start Kindergarten. Health issues are effecting our household too much to devote the energy necessary to teaching. I liked this article. Although I already knew our decision was sound, it’s nice to hear you say it. :)

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Bethany March 26, 2015 at 7:23 pm

I love this quote. :)

To stand on a line so stubbornly that we refuse to see reasons that could change that line for others, is to either make the line an idol or to make oneself unmerciful. Neither are God honoring.

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lisa April 15, 2015 at 12:01 pm

I had to quit homeschooling after doing it for 17 years because of burnout that became depression. I have started a blog for homeschool moms who are burned out, considering school, or former homeschoolers because of so little support.

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